Category: Mental Health

Fathers, Fairy Tales, and Lies: Why We Can & Should Hold Black Male Celebrities Accountable for Their Crimes

I wrote this back in May of last year, but all the Bishop Eddie Long apologists I'm reading on Facebook brought it back to my mind and renewed its relevancy, at least to my thinking. I will say the same thing here that I said on Facebook about some people's refusal to be silent about … Continue reading Fathers, Fairy Tales, and Lies: Why We Can & Should Hold Black Male Celebrities Accountable for Their Crimes

Being the Change: Ryan Lochte, Bresha Meadows, and What Black Parents Need to Do for Their Own Kids

All the clamor over Ryan Lochte has passed, but I still have some lingering resentment of it, so I'm writing this weeks after it may seem relevant. Please forgive me, though. I'm actually talking about something bigger and more important than Ryan Lochte; I'm just using his bullshit antics as an entryway into the conversation. Ryan … Continue reading Being the Change: Ryan Lochte, Bresha Meadows, and What Black Parents Need to Do for Their Own Kids

Mind Over Matter: On the Killing of Korryn Gaines

One of the most difficult things to teach students, as an instructor of composition, is how to avoid making sweeping generalizations in their writing. Take abortion, for instance. I've lost count of how many papers I've read with the thesis that "Women shouldn't be allowed to have abortions because having an abortion is taking the easy way … Continue reading Mind Over Matter: On the Killing of Korryn Gaines

Chewing (and Swallowing) the Fat

A few years back, I enrolled in this weight loss program with my sister. The administrator was a very sharp, dynamic black woman that took pride in personalizing her approach to each of her clients. She had developed a new program that she was trying out for the first time on my cohort of clients, and … Continue reading Chewing (and Swallowing) the Fat

Black Lives, Double Standards, and Why I Think Kanye Can Say Whatever He Wants

So I wrote about Beyoncé's "Formation" video a couple of weeks ago and got an overwhelmingly positive response from a surprising number of readers. And it felt amazing because I'd never gotten so much attention for my writing or been told by so many people outside of my actual circle that they enjoy what I do. Still, … Continue reading Black Lives, Double Standards, and Why I Think Kanye Can Say Whatever He Wants

My First Post Since . . .

Originally, I named this blog "The Bluest i" because I thought I'd write at length about my decade-long battle with depression. I thought I'd explore the ways that American life breeds depression in black women; all the ways that black women hurt as a result of living in the kyriarchy; and how they may heal. And … Continue reading My First Post Since . . .