Category: Men

Fathers, Fairy Tales, and Lies: Why We Can & Should Hold Black Male Celebrities Accountable for Their Crimes

I wrote this back in May of last year, but all the Bishop Eddie Long apologists I'm reading on Facebook brought it back to my mind and renewed its relevancy, at least to my thinking. I will say the same thing here that I said on Facebook about some people's refusal to be silent about … Continue reading Fathers, Fairy Tales, and Lies: Why We Can & Should Hold Black Male Celebrities Accountable for Their Crimes

Being Insecure: The Complication of Wanting Romantic Love as a Cis Hetero Black Femme Feminist

So I watched the final three episodes of "Insecure"-- If you don't know "Insecure," then you should get to know it. It's entertaining as hell. Even though it trades on some of the most tired paradigms of black entertainment--my least personal favorite being the funny fat friend (since she is who I battle with myself on a daily … Continue reading Being Insecure: The Complication of Wanting Romantic Love as a Cis Hetero Black Femme Feminist

Being the Change: Ryan Lochte, Bresha Meadows, and What Black Parents Need to Do for Their Own Kids

All the clamor over Ryan Lochte has passed, but I still have some lingering resentment of it, so I'm writing this weeks after it may seem relevant. Please forgive me, though. I'm actually talking about something bigger and more important than Ryan Lochte; I'm just using his bullshit antics as an entryway into the conversation. Ryan … Continue reading Being the Change: Ryan Lochte, Bresha Meadows, and What Black Parents Need to Do for Their Own Kids

Rebellion: Against Hypocrisy, Gender Racism, & Rape Apologetics

I can't fathom, for the life of me, how men have such a hard time comprehending why raping an unconscious woman isn't "sex" or consensual or why rape is such a destructive act of misogyny, but I thought I'd try to explain it here. In terms that might make it plainer for them. My students always … Continue reading Rebellion: Against Hypocrisy, Gender Racism, & Rape Apologetics