We are so tough but so scared--we black folk. It's actually quite a feat. We can manage to survive institutional racism--the trauma, the stress, the constant devaluation, the violence, the seeming endlessness of its pain and suffering. But we can't do a Goddamn thing with love. We run and hide from it like children. So … Continue reading Sugar, Ice, and Tea: On “Lemonade”
Month: April 2016
I was going to start this post by saying, outright, "I can't stand black people," but then I realized-- I'd be falling prey to the same sort of self-abnegation that I'm about to call out in this post. So I changed my mind. But it took me a minute because I was angry. So … Continue reading In Defense (and Who Would’ve Thought That’d Be Necessary?) of Harriet Tubman on the $20 Bill
A few years back, I enrolled in this weight loss program with my sister. The administrator was a very sharp, dynamic black woman that took pride in personalizing her approach to each of her clients. She had developed a new program that she was trying out for the first time on my cohort of clients, and … Continue reading Chewing (and Swallowing) the Fat
So Ayesha Curry may get her own cooking show. This doesn't surprise me at all. She's such an idealized image of black womanhood. She's married, a mother. She's educated and affluent. She's a former model and actress, light-skinned with straight hair. And she espouses the sort of puritanical "modesty" that men love to hear from beautiful women … Continue reading The Bullshit of Being the “Good” Black Woman
Like Britney, I did another "oops." I watched Parts I and II of the "Love & Hip Hop" Reunion Show for this past season. So I was right there--chin on the floor--with hundreds of thousands of other viewers--wondering what the hell Amina Buddafly was doing, showing off a baby bump with Peter Gunz's other baby-mama, … Continue reading Why Are We So Worried About What the Next Woman Is Doing?